Ask any Highly Sensitive Person and they will admit that subtleties in their environment, especially when they live with other people, can drive them a bit nuts at times. Things that others ignore, such as lop-sided venetian blinds, a drooping plant that hasn't been watered, a cat box that should have been cleaned out yesterday, or a book jutting out of place in an otherwise neat little stack can be too difficult for the HSP to simply ignore.
There are other things too. Take the HSP who lives with someone who wears strong perfume or can't cook without burning things, or snores at night. These things can cause relationships difficulties for sure, but that's another subject for another blog.
And, it's not just a matter of being a perfectionist as many non-sensitives may think, although HSP perfectionists will be bothered even more by these subtleties. No. It's an inherited sensitivity toward noticing things out of balance or out of place. HSPS simply react and respond from a place of knowing how things should be in a perfect world and anything less is extremely obvious to them.
When my children were small, they were only allowed so many toys in the living room at once. Anything more and I would start to feel 'taken over' by bright colored, flashing, noise-making objects. I didn't know that I was a Highly Sensitive Person at the time. I thought it just made sense to limit toys to the ones that were actually being played with at the time. I was also a perfectionist who did not want our living room cluttered up with toys or any other thing that shouldn't be there, like clothes, shoes, plates, crumbs and half-empty cups.
Looking back I see how I was really trying to tone down the subtleties in my environment. When everything was in it's place I was calmer and happier. The kids rooms were a disaster (normally cluttered) and that was OK. It was their space. I didn't live in there. I didn't have to see it every time I looked up from whatever I was doing.
There were other things that seemed to bother me as well. During the summer, the fan would be going non-stop. One place we lived had an old fridge that made a terrible noise when it came on. In another dwelling there were children screaming and shouting all day long and they ran and played. I often wondered what was wrong with me that I couldn't just tune these things out as others suggested.
I know now that there were other things I reacted to in some of the dwellings I lived and worked in as well, such as microwaves and florescent lights. And, I don't know about you, but I've felt presences that others could not. Call them ghosts or just negative energies, but I've moved residences because of them.
There are things we can do as HSPs to create healthier, happier spaces for ourselves without making those around us feel like they have to tip-toe around us. Sometimes, living with a Highly Sensitive Person can be a bit disconcerting for non-sensitives who find they have to worry about whether they are going to upset us whenever they aren't careful.
We can learn to create healthy spaces in delightful ways that our friends and family can also enjoy along side of us
My web page, Creating Healthy Spaces, shows you how to improve all of your living spaces at home, in the office and even your getaways. Feng Shui tips included!
Artwork: A Music Party by Arthur Hughes
Mari J. Dionne ~ CHP, CLC
Whirligigs ~ Testicles
Accoucheur ~ A male mid-wife.
Kingsevil ~ A disease or swelling of the cervical lymph nodes.
Valitudinary ~ Subject to sickness; crazy.
Chime-Child ~ A child born on Sunday who was immune to witchcraft, could see ghosts, and was a natural healer.
Periblepsis ~ A delirious stare of the eyes.
Wormland ~ A churchyard.
Green-Sickness ~ A disease incident to virgins; sickly paleness, with green tint of complexion.
Tissek or Tissicky Cough ~ A tickling faint cough.
Multiplying Medicine ~ An elixer of the alchemists, used in making and multiplying gold.
Peat-Reek-Whisky ~ Highland whiskey, distilled over peat fires.
Belly-Brussen ~ A distended stomach or having a protuberant stomach.
Oint ~ To smear with an unctuous substance (usually having to do with painting or disguising something).
Farbed-Up ~ Confused
Nyctobasis ~ Somnambulism; to walk in one's sleep.
Roozles ~ Wretchedness of mind and body.
Coolth ~ Coolness (opposite of warmth).
Pharmacopolist ~ An apothecary.
Laver ~ To wash (before dinner).
Gothicism ~ To be rude or rudeness.
Desuetude ~ Lack of use.
Splay the Bream ~ To cut up that fish.
Doctor of Skill ~ A physician.
Pimpish ~ Dainty in the matter of food (taking in small quantities.)
Dendranthoplology ~ The theory that man sprang from trees.
Fash ~ Care, trouble, anxiety.
Satisfy Colon ~ To satisfy one's hunger.
Neurasthenia ~ Debility or impairment of the nerves.
Trollibags ~ The intestines.
Cothish ~ Faint, sickly, ailing.
Fogo ~ A disagreeable stink or smell.
With Squirrel ~ Pregnant
Pottinger ~ A cook, apothecary, druggist (Scotland).
Pomster ~ A quack doctor; to treat illness without knowledge or skill.
Bleflummery ~ Vain imaginings.
Venefice ~ A practice of poisoning.
Fish-Whole ~ As sound as a fish or healthy.
Weaponsalve ~ A salve that was supposed to cure the wound by applying it to the weapon that caused it.
Overset ~ To recover from mental shock.
Fordolked ~ Wounded.
Witchify ~ To bewitch.
Wamblecropped ~ Humiliated
Naufrage ~ Shipwreck
Peffle ~ In a nervous state.
Measondue ~ A hospital or poor house.
Dead-Nip ~ A blue mark on the body not caused by an injury or any known cause...sometimes called a witch's nip.
Sadly On ~ Expressing that a person is ill or in a bad way.
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