The 4th of July is just around the corner. Soon it will be Thanksgiving, Halloween and, then, Christmas and New Years.
Thanksgiving is the time of the year folks, traditionally, get together with family and friends to share the traditional meal of turkey and stuffing, mashed potatoes, corn on the cob, rolls, and grandma’s jello salad, and pumpkin pie. We entertain ourselves with details of our experiences and retell the stories of times past. The men might watch a game or the holiday parade on television, while the women tend to the children and the dishes. It is a day filled with those kinds of happy traditions, at least for most of us. For others, it can mean loneliness, frustration, and sadness for personal or financial reasons.
Perhaps, like me, you have a hard time coping with large groups of people, even when it is family. I know I don’t have to tell you how hard it is to walk into an environment filled with various smells, odd lighting, changing temperatures, a cacophony of voices (some familiar and some not) and familial expectations that can make you feel trapped, like others wanting you to share your thoughts and feelings on a subject or asking you to say grace. Then, there’s the having to make excuses to leave when your sensitivities are about to make your head burst and hoping no one will be upset after you make your exit. It’s enough to make you want to play hooky from the event all together. It’s called overwhelm.
None of us like overwhelm because of the way it makes us feel and, all too often, we turn down invites. But, without participating in life, we run the risk of low self-esteem, which doesn’t feel good either. When we fear overwhelm we are actually fearing life or our reaction to it.
With that said, and thinking in terms of happy tradition, perhaps it is time to start some of your own traditions that honor your sensitivities and who you are at this time in your life.
The following suggestions might be of help in reducing sensitivity to holiday stress.
Invite lonely, frustrated, sad, and single friends to share Thanksgiving (or any other holiday) with you.
Have a ‘pot luck only’ meal to reduce financial stress.
Quietly, eat out with a special friend (maybe someone who is also sensitive and overwhelmed).
Send thank you cards in the mail to those who have shared something special with you in the past and stay home and pamper yourself.
Find a way to share your thankfulness with someone else during holidays by donating, giving or offering your time, energy or money.
And, this might help to keep your energy from being drained while visiting others in their homes.
Wear ‘comfy’ clothes.
Food sensitivities can cause upset stomach. Bring along digestive enzymes.
Bring your own beverage.
Eat just 1 tablespoon of everything first before grabbing 2nds.
Pack your camera and your iPod (or ear plugs).
Take dental floss or picks.
Bring a sweater and, maybe, slippers. .
Keep conversations light-hearted.
Staying over? Bring your journal, your toothbrush and your pillow.
If being out of the house or around others makes you feel panicky, you could be dealing with social phobia or agoraphobia. No worries. The Captains Lady can help you with this too!
Mari J. Dionne ~ CHP, CLC
Whirligigs ~ Testicles
Accoucheur ~ A male mid-wife.
Kingsevil ~ A disease or swelling of the cervical lymph nodes.
Valitudinary ~ Subject to sickness; crazy.
Chime-Child ~ A child born on Sunday who was immune to witchcraft, could see ghosts, and was a natural healer.
Periblepsis ~ A delirious stare of the eyes.
Wormland ~ A churchyard.
Green-Sickness ~ A disease incident to virgins; sickly paleness, with green tint of complexion.
Tissek or Tissicky Cough ~ A tickling faint cough.
Multiplying Medicine ~ An elixer of the alchemists, used in making and multiplying gold.
Peat-Reek-Whisky ~ Highland whiskey, distilled over peat fires.
Belly-Brussen ~ A distended stomach or having a protuberant stomach.
Oint ~ To smear with an unctuous substance (usually having to do with painting or disguising something).
Farbed-Up ~ Confused
Nyctobasis ~ Somnambulism; to walk in one's sleep.
Roozles ~ Wretchedness of mind and body.
Coolth ~ Coolness (opposite of warmth).
Pharmacopolist ~ An apothecary.
Laver ~ To wash (before dinner).
Gothicism ~ To be rude or rudeness.
Desuetude ~ Lack of use.
Splay the Bream ~ To cut up that fish.
Doctor of Skill ~ A physician.
Pimpish ~ Dainty in the matter of food (taking in small quantities.)
Dendranthoplology ~ The theory that man sprang from trees.
Fash ~ Care, trouble, anxiety.
Satisfy Colon ~ To satisfy one's hunger.
Neurasthenia ~ Debility or impairment of the nerves.
Trollibags ~ The intestines.
Cothish ~ Faint, sickly, ailing.
Fogo ~ A disagreeable stink or smell.
With Squirrel ~ Pregnant
Pottinger ~ A cook, apothecary, druggist (Scotland).
Pomster ~ A quack doctor; to treat illness without knowledge or skill.
Bleflummery ~ Vain imaginings.
Venefice ~ A practice of poisoning.
Fish-Whole ~ As sound as a fish or healthy.
Weaponsalve ~ A salve that was supposed to cure the wound by applying it to the weapon that caused it.
Overset ~ To recover from mental shock.
Fordolked ~ Wounded.
Witchify ~ To bewitch.
Wamblecropped ~ Humiliated
Naufrage ~ Shipwreck
Peffle ~ In a nervous state.
Measondue ~ A hospital or poor house.
Dead-Nip ~ A blue mark on the body not caused by an injury or any known cause...sometimes called a witch's nip.
Sadly On ~ Expressing that a person is ill or in a bad way.
The Captains Lady, 2005~2017.
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