Don't provide personal information too soon, such as your address, exactly where you work, or passwords.
If you have a beverage, make sure you are present to make sure no drugs are slipped into it. If you do drink something that makes you feel strange, leave your date immediately and go home or seek medical attention on your own (or call 911).
Don't go to their place or vice versa on the first or second date.
If you are video calling, make sure there is nothing in the background to identify where you live or work.
Have a friend or family member call you and check up on you one or two times on your first date.
Let someone know the details about your first date, who you are with, where you plan to be, their name, what they look like and anything else you can think to tell them.
Meet in a public place. Don't be gullible or naive and meet somewhere no one can hear you if you need help.
Don't get in their car, boat or any other vehicle on the first date or two.
Carry an alarm or whistle on your key chain.
Set your phone settings so you can be found by GPS if anything goes wrong.
Set your phone's 'face' to turn off after just a few seconds to keep them from getting personal information out of your phone.
In order not to chase your date away, don't talk about your ex, your kids, your faults or your problems too soon. We all have them, but too much too soon can ruin things. You also don't want to reveal too much personal information to soon for safety purposes.
Do not have sex with someone too soon and, if and when you do, always get checked for STDS first, as a couple, and wear protection. Just because you know they have HSV doesn't mean they've told you everything. They may not even know they are carrying anything else.
How to Avoid a Player
What is a player? In my day, they were called play boys, but a player can be male or female.
A player is someone who, because of their insecurities, does everything they can to lead you up to sex or an "I love you." to feed their ego.
Players are charming, attentive, convincing. They often offer to help you with your problems.
Players don't reveal much about themselves.
Players can be boastful, especially about having money, whether it is true or not. Meaning, not only are they secretive, but they can be liars who claim grand plans they want to include you in.
A player's objective is to wind you around their finger until they have you in bed and hear you tell them you love them. Then, they pull away and while you are doing all you can, including losing your self-esteem to get them back, they are already off to the next conquest.
Players are different from narcissists in that they, mostly, just have commitment issues and are heart-breakers. They are not necessarily cruel even though it may feel differently when you are trying to pick up the pieces of your heart. Players can learn to love and be loved monogamously.
Narcissists, on the other hand, are not necessarily players. They dangerous bottom feeders who will seek you out and will continue to drain your very soul in order to control you. See HSP Healthy Relationship Requirements for red flags and what to do if you become involved with a narcissist and how to move away from an abuser safely.