My Social Activities, Relationships & Daily Doses of Affection
My Social Activities
How often do I accept or extend invitations to get together with friends, family, or coworkers? What kinds of things do I like to do or would I like to do with others (dancing, traveling, ball games, camping, book clubs, girl’s night out, etc.)?
When we are feeling overwhelmed the last thing we want to do is accept or extend an invitation. Just the idea can seem to drain the energy right out of us. But, guess what? Getting out there, unless you are sick or really, really tired, is one of the best things you can do to re-energize, get your perspective back, and feel good about yourself.
How often do you accept social invitations without really wanting to? How often? Why? What types of invitations (what type or by who)?
Learning to say "No." can make all the difference between a wearing a smile or a frown. Everyone needs down time, especially Type A personalities (the busy, go-getter types).
Am I satisfied with the relationships in my life? If not, why not?
It’s important your close, personal relationships contain three things; unconditional love, understanding and intimacy (the ability to be emotional close), and the ability to share simple pleasures.
On a piece of paper, list the relationships you are happy with and write down why they make you happy (they may make you feel loved, happy, important, special, recognized, appreciated, etc.). This list will help you to remember those who care about you, admire you, and who you can turn to for emotional support.
Now, do the same for the relationships you are unhappy with. Write down how they make you feel, why you are unhappy, what your responsibility for this unhappiness is (if at all), and what, if anything, you can do to make things better.
If you cannot make things better write down what your options are for leaving your dysfunctional or abusive relationship. Just remember not to leave notes around for an abusive partner to find.
Sometimes, others can make you feel as if you are somehow 'less' when they don't understand you. And, sometimes, it's your own thoughts and feelings about this that can bring you down. Low self-esteem, yours or theirs can negatively affect and sabotage an otherwise healthy relationship.
How often am I affectionate with others (holding hands, hugs, making love, etc.)?
Am I content with the amount of affection I give or receive? Do I need more or less affection in my life? What are my feelings about this?
Am I able to be intimate with anyone in my life? Intimacy means ‘closeness’. Yes or no?
You can be intimate with anyone, as intimacy does not imply anything sexual. It is a natural emotional component of a healthy relationship. It is simply being close, having an understanding or a deep bond. You can be intimate with your best friend, your parents, your children, and even a pet.
Sexuality, on the other hand, involves romanticism, love, passion, and lust in physical expression, which is also healthy under the right circumstances. Am I happy with my sexual life or decision to remain celibate, why or why not?
If you have ever been a victim of sexual abuse there’s RAINN, which is an online resource for anyone who has ever been a victim of sexual abuse at any time in their life, whether male or female.